WHEN YOU LEARN TO HAVE YOUR OWN BACK, YOU STOP HOPING OTHERS WILL DO IT FOR YOU.
If you want to change your life, change the way you show up for yourself.
The critical voice in your head? Teach it compassion.
The choices you want affirmed? Speak into them yourself.
I’ve spent a lot of life seeking the validation of others; choosing what they thought was best for me (big and small things) and then trying to fit in containers I wasn’t meant to fit in. It’s a shitty, defeated feeling to hear the music in your own heart and continually dance to the music of others. But, it’s also human nature. We want to self-express, but we often want security and attachment more. So, we abandon in ways we don’t realize…until we realize.
And if these words are giving you all the feels, I see you. Oh, I see you. And don’t let me fool you. I may have my own back in ways that were once a huge roadblock for me, but I’ve got work still to do.
Just remember…deep down, you know what having your back feels like. And you teach others how to show up for you. Rather than finding your worth in their reaction to your choices, choose your worth FIRST and then see how they react.
Nobody gets to decide what fulfilled, or authentic, or aligned looks like for you EXCEPT YOU. There’s only one opinion and person you have to live with 100% of the time for the rest of your life…and that’s you.
We might as well dance to the music in OUR soul and learn to have our own back, because our relationship to self is the one earthly connection we’re guaranteed forever.
Consider the expectations and deal-breakers you have in other relationships. Are those also expectations and deal-breakers in your relationship to self?